CHOSEN WORDS.

We get hurt because of our choices,and we choose wrong because our lack of experience.
So if we spend our lives hurting,we will never learn.

HOW TO LOVE A WOMAN.

We all know love ,but also most of us have one way to love......his way.Well,there is nothing wrong with that,actually it is healthy to explain yourself in your own way,but sometimes these ways are raw and need to be refined a little bit.We need to differ between love and weakness in love.A man can love,but he is not allowed to be weak towards this love,that is the main difference in love between men and women.When the woman loves,she loves with every atom in her existence,that what makes her weak in her love and"there is no shame in it because that is how things should be",if the man does the same,that leaves us with two options.

option A: A doomed relationship cause it is built on weakness

option B: It won’t be a mutual love between two persons,it will                    be a master and slave relationships

 who is the master and who is the slave ?.....I believe you know.

The woman is an emotional creature,her heart misguides her Cerebration most of times.The man is the one who has the ability to love with his heart and think with his brain.

LOVE ISN’T.......

WRONG IDEAS ABOUT LOVE

LOVE OR REVENGE

When you broke up with someone,that surely leaves a mark in your life.But when life puts him/her in your way once again and it happens that he/she is vulnerable,you might have a second thought.

If you choose to overlook,that is for sure because of your pride,but if you choose to take him/her back,that is the question.....is it because you still love him/her or because you want to have your revenge?.

LOVE IS SELFISH

If we asked anyone about love,he would say it is one of the most noble feelings the human ever knows.That is absolutely true,but love also one of the most selfish feelings the human ever knows.

This selfishness is pretty obvious in how you express your love,you say "I love".That is more like a possession actually.Some will claim that sacrifice is what makes love noble.Even sacrifice in love is selfish.See,when you choose to sacrifice,you don’t ask your partner permission cause you’re always assuming that you love more than your partner....says who?.I believe sacrifice is one way to run and feel good about yourself in the same time....pretty good actually.

LOVE & ATTRACTION

No doubt the look is one of the most fundamental  factors affecting any potential relationship.After all it is the first thing your eyes lie on,but what i see differs from what you see right?.Actually what you see is a reflection of what you are.if you care about the look,that explains your shallowness.if you care about the character,that reveals your sobriety and so on.

WHAT IS LOVE?

Everyone has a definition for love,even who says i don’t know what love is,that’s a definition in a way.Some people spend most of their lives seeking love,some others wait and some lucky people just run into it,But the most beautiful thing is that we have to experience this feeling at least once in our life time.Our definitions to love don’t stand in our ways to love,but it just might conflict with our partners’.

The bottom line is finding love is easy,but the hardest job ever is maintaining it.

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UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

I believe such expression doesn’t exist.However we say it,claim it and sometimes we actually believe it.Something we need to understand and be aware of very well,nature is all about balance.And since we’re part of the nature,that acquires us nature’s properties which are all about balance.if we loved,we expect to be loved,otherwise it will be suffering.

                                                                      

LIFE ISSUES

PEOPLE WE MEET IN LIFE

RELATIONSHIPS,WHAT CONTROLS IT?

To answer this question we need to know what affects any relationship.It is unfair to refer to the relationship as a couple who choose to be together as they live by themselves in this world,that is an entrance to so many troubles couples could come through without even knowing.

As we’re not living alone in this world,that makes us part of the life we share with others.That means sooner or later we will get involved.let’s say that life is a group of circles and a couple is one circle,their circle will either interact or conflict with other circles and that what makes life.

Life is a bunch of variables we have to deal with and these variables affect us.So,dealing with those variables solely or refusing to deal with them as a couple are both wrong and not healthy to any relationship......The only way to work things out in any relationship is to confront,share,cooperate to come out with a solution to whatever you’re facing as a couple.

WHAT IS ROMANCE?

So many people think that romance and love are two sides of the same coin,and that might get them in troubles.See,most of our problems are caused by our lack of experience or our lack of understanding.

When it comes to relationships,so many of us get confused and uncertain about their feelings.

It is quite simple actually to figure out,if only we could achieve clarity about our messed up concepts and ideas which we’re used to take for granted.

One of these messed up ideas is Romance.In fact Romance is a human trait like any other trait exists in every human being not equally of course.Yes,but every trait has a definition,a description.
So,what is the definition of Romance?....Romance is the dreaming of future,a vision,something you see in front of you,but you can’t touch.But we limited this energetic trait to love and relationships.
The bottom line is,to be successful in every aspect of your life,you have to be romantic. 

I GIVE MORE THAN I RECEIVE

All of us carry great expectations when we get into relationships.Based on these expectations we start to give unconditionally hoping to be treated the same in return.But sometimes things don’t work the way we previously imagined.....That could leave us angry and frustrated and start seeking someone to blame "mostly our partner"....Regardless our expectations are realistic or not,but we all seek perfection.And as perfection’s respective differs from one another,that means it is really achievable.So,it is up to you to compromise your perfection’s list or stick to it.

So,let’s put it this way,it is a demand and supply thing.The higher your demand is "your perfection’ list",the less supply you find "your match",it makes sense actually.

HOW TO OWN HIS/HER HEART?

All the time the women complain about their partners never talk enough.conversely,the men always wonder why their partner never stop complaining .Because they simply are different and the key to each’s heart is:

LOVE VS MARRIAGE

Some people might think that marriage should be every love story’s closure.This way marriage indeed is the end of the road and there is nothing further but a steep cliff.Actually marriage is just the beginning to something more sacred than love itself.                                                               

I AM NOT SURE HOW I FEEL.

Sometimes you can’t be sure how you feel,so just take your time and rush in to say or do something you might regret in the future.

WHY MEN ARE SO AFRAID OF COMMITMENT?

This question comes across so many women’s mind,and they rarely find an answer.This might be confusing  for lots of women and pretty much teasing them.But,who should take the blame?.The man or the woman..........well let’s see.

Before you put the blame on your male partner.There are a few facts you need to understand about the male’s nature.

See,the man always thinks of himself as a free spirit,a wild horse "if you may want to call him",and you could see that obvious in his eyes,this fire,this wildness,his love of life.And as he is a wild creature,that makes you his tamer.

Another thing,Contrary to what women think,the man is organized in mind,he knows what he wants.Though,commitment is his last priority cause he thinks that might hold up his plans and ambition.

So,the different priorities will be the eternal dispute between men and women.

IS SHE READY TO MOVE TO THE NEXT LEVEL IN OUR RELATIONSHIP?

HOW COULD YOU TILL SHE WANTS WHAT YOU WANT?

After you become so sure and very certain that the woman you’re with is your dream woman and that she is the one you want you spend the rest of your life with,you start to have your fears because that is the human nature,he never wants to be happy even if he claims otherwise.He always searches for reasons to be insecure and alert all the time,"may be that’s the secret of survival".Anyway back to the subject "does she want what you want?".It is a vital question in any relationship actually,so let’s proceed.

Well ,there are two possibilities.The first one is that she wants what you want.That leads us to the next question "How would you know that?".See if she wants what you want that means she is a classic woman who trusting her partner and always goes where he goes.She believes that she is a part of her partner not his opponent.Her happiness completes when you’re happy.And the best way to say what you feel is just saying it...and believe me she will bless every word you say.

Coming to the second possibility which is she don’t want what you want or she is not ready yet to take your relationship to the next level .See her being not ready means that she is not emotionally mature.That may be because two main reasons.

The first one is her background,what she been through in her life or what she has witnessed  what makes her developing an escaping mechanism,so she don’t have to experience pain and  abandonment.

The other reason is she is a practical and independent person believes in Introductions and results,she will listen to the sound of reason,she always has a plan,this plan might include you,may be not.

DOES HE/SHE WANT WHAT I WANT?

After spending a quite time in a relationship,your feelings start to come clear enough for you to decide what you want from this relationship.If  you’re serious and you want to move on,you start to wonder about your partner does he/she want what you want?.And because you don’t want to scare him/her away or at least putting hum/her under pressure,you choose not to say a word and afford the burden of your silence all by yourself,so you don’t risk what you have.After a while you start to send a subtle hints hoping for an answer.Most times you can’t understand the feedback and you just get worse and more insecure.So how to read signs?.Well it depends on your partner whether it is a male or female.See male and female are different on how they explain themselves.In posts below i explain how male or female are different in thinking in more details.

MALES POINT OF VIEW              FEMALE POINT IN VIEW

HOW DO YOU KNOW SHE/HE IS INTO YOU?

IS HE/SHE REALLY INTO ME?

When you meet someone and spend quite time together,you start asking yourself is he/she into   me? especially when it is someone you really like.Then you start to spend your nights wondering and your mind starts to jump into so many conclusions and before you know it you got nervous and  frustrated while you are crying out '"what to do?","should i call?" ,"should i wait?".And as you are getting nowhere,you end up eating or sleeping right?.So,what to do?See,things are really confusing especially at the early beginning of any relationship,so the best way to get over this confusion is to pay attention to yourself a little bit.Before you get eager about the other person’s opinion of you,you need to know how you feel about him/her.Are you interested  or you are just impressed?.What makes him/her so special to you?.Are you serious or not?.Once you answer those questions it is a pretty good start that qualifies you to read the signs efficiently and gives you a hint about what you want as well your potential partner.

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WHY MY RELATIONSHIPS NEVER LAST ?

I am hearing so many asking this question and i see them go here and there in hope they get  a proper answer to there question.Some of  us are lucky and know what it takes to keep their relationships safe and others just stand there watching from a distance and might spend the rest of their lives wondering why......

I always say there is no manual for human communication and human ties,especially relationships .

Because relationships are very delicate and sensitive,we need to handle it nice and easy.No need to rush in or take irresponsible action.You can see i deal with the relationship as a living thing.Indeed the relationship is two people gather to become one,that makes it as alive as they are.

And because the relationship is between humans that makes it human as well,so let’s apply the human’s rules on it.The human is first born ,then a baby,then a teenager,then turns to be an adult and eventually dies.

That’s pretty much the relationship phases right?.Two people first meet,then admire each other (pregnancy),then they move to next level they love each other(baby),then they start to go through the life’s problems,their own problems and their fights and living sometime in questioning their lives and their choices,they might even have a break from each other and that’s the most rough period in any relationship (teenager).After experiencing these challenges and get though it that means they reached  the safety shore  in one piece.At this stage they are ready to take  the responsibility of loving each other (adult).

The bottom line is any relationship involves two parties and if they ever want things to work out between them ,they should take their responsibilities  and fulfill their duties towards each other.As they are both responsible for making it works,they also are both responsible for things getting worse.

DOES LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT REALLY EXIST?

Have you ever seen someone you don’t know and you thought he might be the one?.The one you want to spend the rest of your life with....And your mind starts off visualizing your life together....And within minutes you already build this new life with everything in it....your home,your kids,your holidays,even your car and your pets.

Well your answer should be a yes or a No.If you answer No that means one of two things...the first thing is you haven’t experienced this feeling...yet.And the second thing is that you simply don’t believe in "love at first sight". 

If you answer yes that also has two possibilities.The first one is your feeling might be true and sincere and personally i believe it requires a great insight only few people have.and who knows you might be one of them.

The other possibility is that is an illusion,a tricky feeling needed to be felt by you derived by a particular situation meets your desirable wishes your mind could translate into a muddled sense you might call it "love". 

So,"love at first sight exists?",i believe it does but the question is if you find your love,will you pursue it?.I believe that is the question which needs an answer.